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Friday, 25 December 2009

Monday, 21 December 2009

  • Major cleanup

    You hear that saying all the time. Out with the old, in with the new. It seems like the thing to do as the year comes to an end. Sometimes you just have to know when to cut something off if and when it doesn't work out for you. I felt like I've given things a chance, an opportunity to grow. But if it ends up harming me, it just has to go. It still amazes me sometimes how conniving, manipulating and artful people can be. My mom says I'm a bit "naive" that way. It's hard for me to accept that people can be so cruel, so mean, so calculative, but I suppose that is reality.

    There are so many things I wish I could say to these people... but maybe some things are better left unsaid. At this point in time, I'd rather surround myself with people who didn't just say "look, I'm on your side", but they back it up with action. I am drawing the line and it's not a line in the sand. No more of these "neutral" folks who seem to agree with everything you say but they really don't have your best interest at hand. Again, it's hard to believe that people can be so conniving.

Monday, 17 August 2009

  • What not to say

    Sometimes we forget that people have feelings. I mean that in the nicest ways. Even when we can relate to what the person is going through. I went through this with a lot of my friends whom I know meant well, but when you're engulfed in despair, even the most plausible advice sound preposterous.
    For example, to someone who just broke up with their significant other, don't say there's other people out there for them. It's hard enough for the person to get over the grief and it's not something somebody else can replace. Yes, they might find love again with another person, but that's not quite the quick fix to it. Plus, you don't want to give ideas to the other person that there is somebody else for their ex. Really, if you want to be a friend, just listen and give your support. Even the simple words of "no matter what you do, I will support you" will do. People don't need you to solve all their issues so you don't have to be the person to find them a solution. They just want to be heard. They want to mourn.


Tuesday, 10 March 2009

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